1. Commit yourself!
“I should lose weight”, “I’d like to have that promotion”, or “I could do that course”, sound familiar? These all show an interest in changing something in your life and reaching goals, but what they are not, are statements that demonstrate your committed to a change or goal. When we truly commit our” I should”,” I could” and” I’d like to”, must become “I MUST”. How committed are you right now? on a scale of one to ten? If it’s not ten, what will it take to make it a ten?
“Making a true decision means committing to achieving a result, and then cutting yourself off from any other possibility”
A good way to get committed is to put your goal out there, share it with friends and family, be accountable to them. Many of us don’t like to give up, (or lose face), but if no one knows, then it’s very easy to do just that. Another good way is to write it down; Write down what it is you are committed to achieving and the time you will commit (ideally any time available), to work on achieving it, and make it a visible reminder every day.
2. Get Leverage!
The best ways to get leverage is to really explore why you want what you want; all the actual and potential benefits of achieving it, and to also to examine on what it will cost you (in any way, shape or form) to remain as you are, without reaching that goal. To help you do this here are some great questions to ask yourself for both positive and negative motivation.
What will I be able to do, on achieving this, that I couldn’t do before?
What positive feeling will I experience more of, when I reach this goal?
Who will be proud of me/I inspire or be a good role model for on reaching this goal?
What financial, health, emotional and social gains will I have on reaching this goal?
What positive impact will this have on family/friends and loved ones?
How does not reaching my goal conflict with my core values?
How will I feel if I don’t reach my goal? What is my greatest fear in not committing to achieving this?
What will be at risk (relationships/health/mental wellbeing etc), if I stay where I am?
What is inconvenient about not achieving this goal? What hassles am I creating for myself by not achieving this goal? How am I making my life even more difficult?
In what way am I living below my standards if I’m not fully committed to this goal?
3. Break down and reward
We often lose sight of our goals, and with it our motivation, when they seem too big and in the distance. Neuroscience tells us that each small success triggers the brain’s reward centre, releasing feel-good chemical dopamine. This helps focus our concentration and inspires us to take another similar step. So, Break down your goal into smaller, realistic steps and find ways to reward yourself at each step.